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  1. ineedhelp

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    Posted 8 years ago
    Tue Apr 5 2011 12:30:56
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    For those who have or had BB's did you still goto friends places or more importantly your significant others place during that time? My gf lives with her mother presently, but she wont let me over for fear of getting this. I understand this fear i wouldnt wish it on no one, but at the same time i feel isolated.

    I would clean clothes in washer and dryer change into them and leave the house quickly, get to hers, strip down, put my clothes again in washer dryer at hers and take a shower. Shouldnt that be enough or is it still not safe, and best to stay away from her place. (hoping she never brought any home last few months with her after staying here). I feel like shes being too paranoid, basically she got mad. So please inform if its best to stay away or not if shes overreacting?

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    Posted 8 years ago
    Tue Apr 5 2011 13:35:48
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    Tue Apr 5 2011 15:34:51
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    I visited 2 significant others regulary from Sept to early March. They were both terminally ill and died within 2 weeks of each other. I had to see them; nothing could have destroyed my life more than to be cut off from these most-loved of my loved ones. It was clear their time was running out. I simply showered, put on sterile clothes and shoes and left. It has never seemed necessary to me to dawn new clothing upon arrival. If our sterlization techniques don't work upon leaving the house, then they don't work. But I usually walked as they both lived nearby. I suppose if I had to go in my car, it might have been different, but i don't really know.

    Nothing ever spread to their homes. I visited a few others, but less frequently. No one has set foot in my own home since last August; that's the one thing I can't allow.

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    Tue Apr 5 2011 15:52:53
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    so unsettling - 16 minutes ago  » 
    I visited 2 significant others regulary from Sept to early March. They were both terminally ill and died within 2 weeks of each other. I had to see them; nothing could have destroyed my life more than to be cut off from these most-loved of my loved ones. It was clear their time was running out. I simply showered, put on sterile clothes and shoes and left. It has never seemed necessary to me to dawn new clothing upon arrival. If our sterlization techniques don't work upon leaving the house, then they don't work. But I usually walked as they both lived nearby. I suppose if I had to go in my car, it might have been different, but i don't really know.
    Nothing ever spread to their homes. I visited a few others, but less frequently. No one has set foot in my own home since last August; that's the one thing I can't allow.

    Thank you for sharing, and i incredibly sad to hear about both of them, i am so sorry for your loses :(that really makes bed bugs look like a bruise on your leg.

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    Posted 8 years ago
    Tue Apr 5 2011 16:48:09
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    INH. It sounds like you're following a protocol similar to that in our travel FAQ and that's good. Still, it's possible the GF (or her mom) is barring you out of fear, mistrust or some personal factor.

    If she won't budge, I'd try and get past her, never ever give her the time of day and find ways to treat yourself special even as you deal with BB.

    And I think a thread on how to date is definitely in order.

    (and whatever David Cain told you in private message.)

    Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night...
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    Posted 8 years ago
    Tue Apr 5 2011 17:31:27
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    Thanks yeah she is afraid, very afraid of getting this at her house. I do understand this, however, id think she would be safe being taking extra measures. She is freaked out, this situation does that, i know it for sure.


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