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  1. Distressed in NJ

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    Posted 5 years ago
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    I don't have the money it takes to keep fighting these hideous things when they inevitably return. So I don't know what I'm going to do. It seems like an impossible battle. I feel in total despair and have never felt this down before in my life. I feel my life is very bleak right now.

  2. bed-bugscouk

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    Posted 5 years ago
    Wed Mar 26 2014 14:41:56
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    Hi,

    People often worry about what they don't fully understand.

    The solution is always to invest the time in understanding and that means "knowing your enemy".

    David

  3. Daylight

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    Posted 5 years ago
    Wed Mar 26 2014 14:56:22
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    Hi Distressed,

    Please call someone to talk to about your despair today. I and the others on this forum understand your feelings and are here for you, but the sound of a human voice can be very soothing.

    Also: Go to the thread about OT on Hope. There's some beautiful music and videos on to give you strength. Take care and feel better. I am praying for you.

  4. BigDummy

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    Posted 5 years ago
    Wed Mar 26 2014 14:59:02
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    They're frustrating as hell, but in the end just insects. You're not missing any limbs from them, they haven't paralyzed you, you're not dying a slow death from an unknown toxin, your hair isn't falling out, your butt doesn't look as big as you think it does; relax and go about this logically.

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    Posted 5 years ago
    Wed Mar 26 2014 14:59:08
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    Distressed,

    Here is the thread with the songs:

    http://bedbugger.com/forum/topic/ot-songs-of-hope-and-faith

  6. Daylight

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    Wed Mar 26 2014 15:34:13
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    Dear Distressed,

    Please read over this blog:

    http://bedbugger.com/forum/topic/if-you-are-feeling-suicidal-or-anxious-1

    Thinking of you and hoping you feel better!

  7. Distressed in NJ

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    Posted 5 years ago
    Wed Mar 26 2014 16:01:18
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    Thank you all for your support. Without this forum I feel completely alone.

  8. theyareoutthere

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    Wed Mar 26 2014 21:33:07
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    It's tough, and you are allowed to have days when you wallow in it. But, it's important that you also take "breaks" from the worry, even if it's just a walk. And, there are a lot of success stories. Many took a long time.

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  9. endless_nightmare

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    Wed Mar 26 2014 22:11:50
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    Depression is just hiding your inner strength.

    No matter how helpless, weak or sad you may feel, there is a force in you that is brighter than ten thousand suns, it's always there, even when you cannot see it.

    It's there now.

    but the sound of a human voice can be very soothing.

    Right on the head of the nail, or is it right on the nail.? anyway you know what I mean Daylight

    Don't hesitate to call one of the numbers on that stickie, or perhaps something local in your area

    Being alone with your thoughts is not good

    Seek the help of a friend or family

    Talk to a pastor or a priest (I'm not pushing any religion, I have found out that even non-believers get help by talking to those people)

    Check out some of those OT threads that Justchecking is posting.

    You feel awful. How about just taking a walk and looking around slowly, get a bit of fresh air in you.

    One day at a time. Everything will be fine.

    Andrea
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  10. JustChecking

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    Posted 5 years ago
    Wed Mar 26 2014 22:32:25
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    Hi Distressed in NJ,

    I once heard a doctor said if one really has depression, which your doctor will determine, talking with a mental health professional, pastor, ... will not help. The depressed person has to be medicated. That's why I highly recommended you to see your doctor ASAP.

    Hope you feel better soon.

    JustChecking, not a therapist / bug pro
    Please click my user name on the left for these threads:
    (OR go through my thread starter list OR use the search engine)
    --->stress busters --->energy boosters
    --->songs of hope and faith --->help U sleep tonight
  11. Nobugsonme

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    Posted 5 years ago
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    Distressed in NJ,

    You will get through this time and better times will come.

    I hope you will follow the leads in the sticky "If you are feeling suicidal or anxious" to find someone to talk with.

    In the experience of many here, talk therapy can indeed be helpful with depression. And even when medication is needed (which it might be), talking is usually the first step to getting other kinds of help. Seeing a doctor is a good first step because they can help direct you to resources and find the needed care (of whatever type). If lack of funds or lack of insurance are issues, doctors or social workers should be able to direct you to resources which can help.

    In addition, as the sticky notes, if you ever feel like you might harm yourself, please see a therapist or doctor immediately or call 911 and get emergency help.

    I started and run the site but am "not an expert."
  12. ITortureBugs4Revenge

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    Posted 5 years ago
    Thu Mar 27 2014 2:08:30
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    Just remember that they are little more than simple small brained life forms, and with just a little time devoted to researching the little freeloading bastards through reputable online sources such as this site, and the Jeff White videos on YouTube you will start knowing the enemy and realizing these things aren't at all invincible and can be put in their proper place...with or without money. The proper use of things like DE powder, steamers (No need to pay extra for a steamer with "bells and whistles"), and cheap and easily obtained contact killers like rubbing alcohol can go a long way in keeping bedbugs at deaths door and won't cost an arm and a leg either.

    You will get through this!

    .....I am NOT an expert.....

    Any advice i give here is based solely on my own personal experiences in dealing with bedbugs & other household vermin.
  13. endless_nightmare

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    Posted 5 years ago
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    I agree with JustChecking actually

    the doctor should be your very first stop


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