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jmastersherm
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Posted 1 year ago
Mon Sep 8 2008 0:41:52
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Has anyone foung their BB problem to have caused tension, sarcasim and downright nastiness on the part of family and friends. I have a fried who calls all the tie who seems to think this is a big joke and shot his mouth off abot it to his parents. My mother, who happens to live in the same complex but different apartment seems to be really pissed. When I mentioned a letter to the LL who seems to think he can handle this problem himself, she said I was an embarrasment to her and that I shouldn't get "nasty and sarcastic" about it since I brought them in. That still hasn't been proven conclusively though. Then she starts bringing up the fact that a semi-homeless guy came to my door (but was not let in) looking to borrow money. I live in a mixed income neighborhood with upper middle class types and 3rd generation welfare types all mixed together. There happen to be a lot of mentally ill and low bottom alcoholics in the neighborhood (which i plan to get out of). She seems to think that because I actually talked to this guy that by osmossis I got bb's from him and that I have no rights since it's all my fault. Sorry to vent but I feel like a leper.
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Itchy-Scratchy
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Posted 1 year ago
Mon Sep 8 2008 12:18:54
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Hi jmastersherm: Sorry to hear about this. I think it's terrible that this "friend" thinks this situation is funny. And I can understand your anger about him shooting his mouth off to his parents and thereby the apartment complex. I suppose, just as you feel like a leper, your parents may be starting to feel the same way. Yes, having BBs in embarassing because of the social stigma attached. FYI, if someone had personally attacked me because I spoke to a homeless person, I would feel nasty and saracastic too. I totally understand your need to vent.
While I haven't experienced anything quite as "in your face" as you have, I feel the effects when I tell people I have bedbugs. My biggest problem are the subsequent conversataions I have. Inevitably, maybe a week or two later, they'll show me a bite and confront me about it, convinced they somehow caught bedbugs from me. So feeling like a leper is apt.
I ran into a friend at the lottery booth at the mall (yes, I play the lottery all the time now -- baby needs a new home!) and I was telling this friend about my BB problem. The young woman behind us in the line was snickering. I felt so humiliated and low-class. She had mentally put me in a trailer and named me Velveeta-Mae. I'm sure she had assumed I was poor or on welfare, because most people still believe that only poor people have BBs. Oh, how she enjoyed my misery.
While I want to educate people about the BB problem (especially my neighbours), it becomes difficult to do so when you are met with these types of reactions.
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Adele
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Posted 1 year ago
Wed Sep 10 2008 19:59:17
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Hey Itchy - I think you responded to my posting about the very same issue
it's sad how people react to this - in my case my family and I were never poor nor on welfare - and I own 2 businesses. so in my case I am not treated as low class - but my friends seem to think that this affliction will never happen to them - it's not their problem!!! in my case I am treated like I am crazy and obsessed and need to get a life - just get out and enjoy yourself - and everything will be ok!!! yeah right....
it's amazing how ignorant people can be - so I can sympathize with your feelings
bb don't care how much money you have or where you live - so next time someone snickers you should just tell them to be careful where they sit in any public place becasue these things have been found in many public places - and they will be coming to a movie theater near them too!!!
- and by the way - my mother's middle name was Mae and I love velveeta cheese!!!
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Itchy-Scratchy
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Posted 1 year ago
Thu Sep 11 2008 0:55:11
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Adele - 4 hours ago »
- and by the way - my mother's middle name was Mae and I love velveeta cheese!!!LOL!!
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TryinginBK
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Posted 1 year ago
Thu Sep 11 2008 8:57:07
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Speaking of going to the movies, what do you guys do? The first thing I think of to get away from it all, is going to the movies, but of course I'm afraid of picking something up from there! I read somewhere of someone carrying around a small spray bottle of 91% alcohol and using that on their seat when they go to the movies. Do you think that works? Or are movie theaters now totally off limits? Sometimes I just want to get out of the house and go somewhere to be entertained and take my mind of things (especially on weekends when I don't have to go to work).
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anamorphosis
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Posted 1 year ago
Thu Sep 11 2008 11:31:41
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I think it's worth the risk. I mean nothing is going to work completely. The spray will work if they are on the chair, but not if they crawl on later.
Bed bugs has introduced the worst tension in my relationship that has ever existed so far in the few years we have been together. It's been pretty rough.
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I go to movies. I live in NYC and in this climate would not recommend spraying anything in public places. (Besides, you're not likely to hit random bed bugs by spraying your chair.)
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mangycur
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Posted 1 year ago
Fri Sep 12 2008 12:20:07
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my aunt and uncle came to visit from out of state and actually got mad at me for inspecting their room before I would let them stay in it. They said I was insane and that the hotel is expensive, so it's impossible that it would have bugs. I explained to them why that wasn't really true and they just got more irritated and called me hyserical.
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anamorphosis
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Posted 1 year ago
Fri Sep 12 2008 13:06:00
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yikes, Well, I for one am glad that you took steps to protect themeven if they don't appreciate it. It was a nice thing to do.
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spideyjg
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Posted 1 year ago
Fri Sep 12 2008 15:01:31
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mangycur - 2 hours ago »
my aunt and uncle came to visit from out of state and actually got mad at me for inspecting their room before I would let them stay in it. They said I was insane and that the hotel is expensive, so it's impossible that it would have bugs. I explained to them why that wasn't really true and they just got more irritated and called me hyserical.Tell them tough noogies! If won't let me inspect for these godforsaken demons, don't call me in hysterics because you now have them.
Give them tough love Mangy
Jim
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