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freakout

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Posted 1 year ago
Wed Jan 18 2012 12:45:32
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It's been nearly 3 months of 3 treatments, (plus 3 spot treatments), new floors, new bed, new bedding, tons of laundry and still living out of bags. I had experienced 4 stragglers over 2 months and I am feeling pretty good about this 3 rd treatment. Problem is, I can't imagine ever going to bed for the rest of my life without checking under the bed, inspecting my entire room, looking on the floor when I walk throughout my place, wearing slipper all the time (never barefoot! no way!), sitting down without wondering if one will crawl out from under me... I don't know how to live without the fear. For 3 straight months this is how I've lived. I don't see things the same way anymore. My bed (although new with climbups and nothing dragging on the floor) isn't the same cozy safe place anymore. Do you ever get past it or do you just check everyday forever?
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Posted 1 year ago
Wed Jan 18 2012 19:13:08
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I'm not sure you want to hear my answer but since no one has responded, here it goes. It's 3 1/2 years since my encounter with bbs, and it was a very very mild encounter which I think was eliminated with the first treatment. However, I still will not get into bed without "checking" for signs. I keep a flashlight right next to my bed along with scotch tape, and there's a jewelers loup in my bathroom so I can magnify anything suspicious. When I buy anything, it goes thru the Packtite or in a hot washing machine before it can go in a drawer or closet. Going on a trip is extremely time consuming when I return since there's the whole Packtite/washing/drying/strip in the garage and shower even if it's 3 am and freezing etc. Plus, my husband just doesn't get it, and tries to sneak things into the house, which makes me react like a maniac. My life was a whole lot easier and less stressful before bed bugs, but I am determined to avoid them at all costs so I am willing to do all of the above. I am afraid if I let down my guard, they will win.
bed-bugscouk

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Posted 1 year ago
Wed Jan 18 2012 20:06:41
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Hi,

Different people respond in different ways.

If most of my customers went to extreme measures and needed constant support and reassurance I would not have much time left to take on new ones.

I even know a few people who have suffered for extraordinary lengths of time who return to sensible but normal living within a matter of weeks.

The reality is that some just cope better with what life throws at them than others and in different ways. I wish I knew why and I wished I had a solution but it still eludes me and I am something of a scholar of the school of studying people as well as their bugs.

If you have or can get access to one I would suggest speaking to a qualified therapist about cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) which can be effective in helping people move past such issues.

Hope that helps.

David Cain
Bed Bugs Limited
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Posted 1 year ago
Wed Jan 18 2012 22:37:07
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Let me add that the 2 Davids have definitely helped with my somewhat peace of mind and my "rituals".
I have David's Passives on the beds and David Jame's Packtite and Packtite Closet in my mud room.
The Passives make great Housewarming gifts, either all by themselves or as an "add-on".
theyareoutthere

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Posted 1 year ago
Wed Jan 18 2012 23:42:00
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Just as a FYI, I had a phobia about another sort of bug for years and therapy really helped me identify steps to deal with it. So, I've been kind of thinking that this is a replacement phobia (I don't want to jinx myself by saying we don't have them but I'm going to buy Passive + soon...right? right? they'll be out soon?) and set limits on myself for monitoring because there doesn't seem to be anything there...just flareups of old skin conditions. After posting pictures of my dirty drapes, I've come to realize I have no idea how to identify this stuff and I'm going to read some 2 books, get passives and maybe figure out which magnifying glass to buy and go from there...because I'm probably monitoring more than some people who have them and that just doesn't make sense...

So, yes, people react differently...don't be too hard on yourself if this takes some time...
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Posted 1 year ago
Thu Jan 19 2012 6:36:16
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Hi theyareoutthere,

If you want to get a Passive+ anytime soon you will need to enter the draw as they are currently only made in enough quantities for the field trials and our own field trials that has been going on for a few months now.

Depending upon the results they may go into wider circulation in a few months and I am not sure if our distribution agents will be stocking them and when they will be available. It may end up that as we continue to develop the system we are the only source as we are continually testing formulations in the lab.

That's why the offer through Bedbugger is such a great opportunity to get in at the ground level.

David